{"id":1577,"date":"2016-04-19T13:47:28","date_gmt":"2016-04-19T18:47:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/annswindell.com\/staging\/?p=1577"},"modified":"2016-04-19T13:47:28","modified_gmt":"2016-04-19T18:47:28","slug":"4-things-i-wish-i-knew-about-my-body-in-my-twenties","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/annswindell.com\/staging\/2016\/04\/19\/4-things-i-wish-i-knew-about-my-body-in-my-twenties\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Things I Wish I Knew About My Body in My Twenties"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nThis is the start of my newest article for RELEVANT Magazine.\u00a0<\/em>
\nYou can read the entire article over at RELEVANT<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

I spent a good portion of my twenties focusing on my body and being critical about the shape of it, the size of it, the weight of it.<\/strong> If my pant size moved up, I did what I could to move the size back down. I worried that my body wasn\u2019t as it should be, that it wasn\u2019t good enough and that it needed to change.<\/p>\n

Now, in my thirties, I have come to a comfortable peace with my body. Are there still things I would change if I could? Sure. But over the last decade, as my relationship with God has deepened\u2014and as my body has altered and shifted\u2014I have been able to cling to gratefulness.<\/strong><\/p>\nYour body\u2019s main purpose is to worship the God who created it. <\/a><\/span>Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n

My body has carried me through severe sickness and emotional pain. It has grown and stretched with a child I love dearly. It has walked me over thousands of miles across the world. I am thankful for it, jiggles and all.<\/p>\n

Here are the things I wish I had understood about my body in my twenties\u2014the things that have allowed me to not only accept but rejoice in the body I have:<\/p>\n

Your body\u2019s main purpose is not to attract others to it.<\/h3>\n

Our culture shows us more than enough images of bodies to make us believe that they exist simply to attract others. And in large part because of that, I had a lot of angst in my twenties about how my body appeared to others. I looked in the mirror for lumps and bumps in what I considered to be the \u201cwrong places,\u201d and chose my clothes based on how attractive I thought they made me look to others.<\/p>\n

I wanted to look beautiful, and I wanted to be attractive.<\/p>\n

Now, hear me: I don\u2019t think there\u2019s anything inherently wrong with wanting to appear attractive. I still want to be a beautiful woman. But it was the way I approached my body in my twenties that made my mindset so unhealthy. I was operating from the lens that culture had taught me, rather than getting my grid for beauty and attractiveness from Scripture.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not suggesting that we wear paper bags and frumpy clothes, but what I wish I would have grasped in my twenties is this: Your body\u2019s main purpose is to worship the God who created it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The book of Romans exhorts us: \u201cI appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship\u201d (Romans 12:1).<\/p>\n

Your body is primarily a means of worshiping God\u2014through service, through love, through acts of praise and mercy. Attracting the presence of God through the lives we live in our bodies is much more important than attracting the passing attention of others.<\/strong><\/p>\nAttracting the presence of God is more important than attracting the passing attention of others. <\/a><\/span>Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n

Sex is wonderful but it isn\u2019t the pinnacle of existence.<\/h3>\n

Part of the angst about attractiveness and the shape and size of our bodies stems from a culture that is obsessed with sex. And when the act of sex is at the center of a culture\u2019s focus, then bodies become hyper-sexualized\u2014everything about their attractiveness stems from sexualized ideals. But what I wish I had known in my twenties was that the other aspects of sex\u2014the emotional aspect, the spiritual aspect, the relational aspect. These are the things that make sex deeply satisfying, over and over again, with the same person, in the context of a godly marriage.<\/p>\n

I needed to hear in my twenties that it\u2019s not the shape or size of a body that makes sex wonderful\u2014it\u2019s the context of sex within a loving marriage to a fun and thoughtful spouse thats gives sex its power and delight.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Read the rest of the article\u00a0here, at RELEVANT<\/a>!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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