Flowers, Thistles, and Thorns: Meeting Jesus in Places of Pain

Meeting Jesus in Places of Pain... www.annswindell.comI was at an upscale grocery store recently, admiring the tubs full of flowers, when I noticed a bouquet full of lilies, and carnations, and thistles.

Thistles?

Yes, thistles. Prickly, spiky, gray, and full of thorns. It wasn’t a mistake; I checked. Every bouquet in that bucket had a handful of thistles nudged between the flowers and greenery. And they actually looked–dare I say it?–rather lovely. Those thistles didn’t look soft, and they certainly didn’t look inviting. But they grounded the rest of the flowers with their solemnity and honesty. The thistles, prickly as they were, added an unexpected beauty to the bouquet as a whole. 

And I was reminded: this is the good news of the Gospel.

Stay with me.

All of us have thistles in our lives–those painful, thorny parts of our story that we’d rather do without. The broken relationships, the physical aches, the experiences that we wish we could erase. None of our lives are all flowers and sunshine. We have gray places, dark places, things that still feel like they can prick us if we touch them with our memories.

But–here again is that great, surprising news of the Gospel–even the thorns and thistles in our lives can prove themselves beautiful if they point us to Jesus and lead us into more intimacy with him. I think of the Apostle Paul who writes so honestly about begging the Lord to take away his “thorn in the flesh”–that unnamed pain that the Lord never healed–and hearing Christ tell him that His power is made perfect in our weakness.

Those things that make life so challenging–those thorns and thistles–what if we asked God to help us see those places as gateways to his heart? As open doors for his power in our weakness? As opportunities for grace to be abundant? What if we saw the thorns and thistles as part of the bouquet of our lives–not things that make us ugly and undesirable, but as parts of our story that ground us in Christ’s goodness and in the unexpected beauty of a redeemed life?

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Because Jesus, perfect as he was, didn’t get past the difficult parts of life, either. In fact, he knows the pain of thorns more fully than any of us do: the thorns lodged in his skin as a mocking crown when he paid for our brokenness and sin on the cross.

In the midst of our own pains and hurts, let us rest our gaze on the One who wore the crown of thorns for us. Let us, as the old hymn says, “turn our eyes upon Jesus,” and see that he can make even the prickliest, difficult aspects of our lives into gateways of hope and redemption as he meets us in our pain. That’s the promise of life with Jesus–not ease, but intimacy; not painlessness, but purpose; not comfort, but camaraderie with Him.

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Yes, that’s good news of thistles in bouquets: the joy of Jesus making even the hard parts of our story lovely in their own way–unexpectedly beautiful–as he redeems them by his grace. 

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Clothes, Coffee, and Cloth. Or, Starting Over with Stitch Fix: How I Got My Best Fix Ever

I don’t write much about clothes; in this space, I share a lot about my life and what God is doing in it, about what he’s doing in the world, about how I encounter him in unexpected moments. Occasionally, I’ll highlight a company I believe in who is doing amazing things in the world: Hand & Cloth and Sweet Aroma Coffee are two of my favorites (if you haven’t heard of these organizations, do yourself and the world a favor and hop over to their websites to read about their meaningful missions).

Starting Overwith Stitch Fix

Here’s the truth: the most important thing we should put on every day is love. Still, the other truth is that we all have to wear clothes (at least in public!), and Stitch Fix can be a great option. If you haven’t heard about it, head to the bottom of this post to read about it.*

While I’ve tried Stitch Fix several times, I just recently got a box of clothes where everything worked for me. I’d gotten a few boxes that had been hit or miss; this time, my stylist nailed it. Here’s what I did differently:

  1. I overhauled my Style Profile, and I got ruthless with it. I cut out any color and fabric and style I really didn’t like and stopped trying to leave too many options open for my stylist. I’m up for trying new things–the scarf in this Fix was just that for me–but I also don’t want to be wearing orange.
    Pixley Analisse Anorak Jacket Cargo Jacket www.annswindell.comThe Analisse Anorak Jacket: a cargo jacket in a color I love. Win! 
  2. I started a Pinterest page solely for my stylist and gave her the link. High maintenance? Maybe. But if I’m going to spend money on a stylist/clothes, I want her to have as much information as she can on my style and what I’m looking for. I pinned 20 images of styles and items that I wanted to try, and pointed out specific ones that I really wanted in my notes.
    Fierro Elbow Patch Crew Neck Sweater and Evergreen Dream Multi-Bead Necklace from 31 Bits www.annswindell.comThe Fierro Elbow Patch Crew Neck Sweater
    and Evergreen Dream Multi-Bead Necklace from 31 Bits 
  3. I told my stylist exactly what I was looking for. In the past, I had mentioned that I loved cardigans. But I got cardigans that were too short or too thin. This time, I told my stylist that I wanted something to cover my rear…and guess what I got? Yep, a long-ish cardigan. Also, I knew I wanted a 31 Bits necklace (another great company!) in bright colors and asked for one. That’s what I got. Our stylists aren’t therapists or best friends. They can’t read our minds. If you really want a total surprise, don’t fill out the notes section. But if you actually need a new pair of high-waisted skinny jeans, don’t just say that you need jeans. Tell your stylist that you need high-waisted skinny jeans. Just like I can’t expect my husband to read my mind, I can’t expect my stylist to read my mind, either. Communicating with a Stitch Fix stylist is just like communicating with anyone: be honest, be clear, be kind. And know that she has her own limitations, too; she can’t get you everything you want. As with Stitch Fix, so with life: you can’t always get what you want.Colton Marled Knit Cardigan and Timber Vintage Plaid Infinity Scarf annswindell.com

  4. The Colton Marled Knit Cardigan and
    Timber Vintage Plaid Infinity Scarf

*Here’s how Stitch Fix works: you order a “Fix” (a box of clothes) based on a style profile you fill out about yourself–colors, sizes, styles, patterns, lifestyle. A stylist picks five items for you (from sweaters to scarves to earrings to skirts to jeans), which are sent to you in the mail. The five items are a surprise! You try on clothes at home with the wardrobe you actually have, keep what you love, and send the rest back in a pre-paid envelope. It’s remarkably simple.

Why I like Stitch Fix in this season of life:

1. I’m not in a season where I can spend much money on clothes, and I can set my price point with Stitch Fix. Also, if I buy all 5 items in the box, there’s a 25% discount on everything.

2. I don’t have to leave the house. Three words: Toddler. Time. Winter.

3. I can get a “Fix” as often or as rarely as I want. I don’t get mine regularly (although many people do); usually, I request a box when I have an event coming up where I need a specific item (a dress for a wedding, for example).

4. The cost is a $20 styling fee, which goes toward any item you purchase.

5. Stitch Fix works for women in almost any season of life. From teenagers to retirees, they’ve got clothes for women in many stages, sizes (even maternity!), and professions.

If you want to try Stitch Fix, please click this link and I will get a referral credit. And let me know how it works out for you!

You are Seen, Known, and Loved: Preparing for the Influence Conference

Tomorrow, I’m leaving for The Influence Conference, a gathering of some of my favorite ladies all in one place. These are women whose hearts long for Jesus, whose minds are whip-smart, whose hands are creative, whose lives overflow with love. We’re all broken and wounded; we’re all walking our own roads with the Lord. But these women inspire me in their desire to make much of Jesus with whatever it is they’ve been given on this earth.

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I’ve realized, though, with all of the buzz that starts humming before a conference, how easy it is to look to an event–a weekend, a conference, a worship service–to excite us or bring us hope. How easy it is to bind up our emotions in something–anything–that’s different from our normal, everyday lives.

This isn’t all bad; I think the Lord knows and understands the beauty of events like this, where we have the chance to connect with other believers who we don’t usually see, where we have the opportunity to be completely focused on him and others without the daily stressors of life. Events, especially spiritual events, are wonderful. But they’re not at the core of the Christian life. For many of our brothers and sisters around the world, they will never have the luxury of attending a conference or even a weekly worship service.

It’s humbling to think about.

And yet, it can also point me to the majesty and beauty of these everyday lives that we are living. Because what’s available to all of us, anywhere in the world, is the presence, salvation, and love of Christ.

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Really, it doesn’t actually matter if we’re at an incredible conference or not. It doesn’t matter if you’re working all weekend or if you’re feeling lonely on the couch. It doesn’t matter if your life is thrilling or mundane. All that matters is that the Loving God of the universe sees you and knows you–and you have attention from the King of Kings. You’re not going to miss out on His absolute best for you if you’re walking in step with him, whether you’re worshiping at a conference, finishing the laundry, or completing an assignment. You’ve got the most famous person in the world with His eyes locked on you–and those eyes are full of love. 

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Yes, Jesus loves you. It’s a children’s song and it’s also the deepest truth in the universe: you are loved by Him and he died to save your life from sin and rose again to secure your eternal life with him. That is holiness and majesty in the middle of our everyday lives. That is the best news in the world.

So if you’re feeling left out this week–from a conference, from an experience, from a relationship, from a job, remember that God is with you and for you, right where you are. Breathe that in, and then live it out. You are loved.

Writing for Glory: His and Not Our Own

Writing for God's Glory

As a member of the Redbud Writers Guild, I had the opportunity to write for the Redbud blog this week.
Here is the start of my article. You can read the full piece here!

I have been writing, now, for decades. It started back in elementary school, when we were given blank books in second grade, books that were pure white, inside and out. The covers, the pages, the seams of the binding—all of it, whiter than winter clouds. There were no lines, no rules. Just space. For a student who went to school long before photo websites offered personalized books for any and every occasion, a blank book was a mystery and a rarity. It felt like a prize.

And all of these pages were given to me—for filling. I was given empty space and also the opportunity to fill it. It felt, to me, like a great gift.

It also felt like a burden.

All writing is like that for me—a gift and a burden. I am not handed blank books anymore; there is no teacher setting one down on my desk every month. Instead, I open a new screen and seek to fill the space with meaningful words that recall moments and share stories and offer truth. I do this because I have always been drawn to writing, and because have spent the better part of the last ten years studying words, learning how to tie them together with strands so thin they part like fumes in the wake of a whisper. I have spent time with words, learning how to train them like sentinels waiting for the trumpet blow, ready to release the hammering shock of truth to a willing reader. It is a gift to be able to write. It is also a holy burden to seek to do that well, and faithfully. The gift and the burden, bound up together.

 This is the start of my article for the Redbud Writers Guild–a group of female, Christian writers who are committed to expanding the feminine voice in our churches, communities, and culture. I feel privileged to be a part of this guild of women and encourage you to check out our website and the other female writers and speakers there!

Time with God Shouldn’t Be a Chore: An Article for RELEVANT Magazine

How to Make Quiet Time with God FUN!

[This is from my newest piece at RELEVANT Magazine. Click here to read the entire article!]

Quiet time, devotional time, prayer time, personal time—whatever you want to call it, most of us are referring to something similar: a regular time when we seek to meet with the Lord, read his World and worship Him, love Him and know Him better.

It’s a wonderful value and a beautiful aspect of our relationship with Christ—that we can, actually, have a personal and meaningful relationship with the King of the Universe. When you think about it, it’s fairly unfathomable that the biggest power in the world has time for each of us, especially if, like me, you’re not a foreign dignitary, a millionaire or a superstar. It’s pretty incredible that God wants to have an intentional relationship with each of us.

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And as with anyone we want to get to know, we need to actually spend time with that person in order to grow in friendship. Thus the idea of regular time with God. Often, this time is spent reading the Bible, praying, perhaps journaling or singing. But do our quiet times actually need to be, ahem, quiet? I don’t think so.

Here are a few ways, other than Scripture reading, we can get to know God in unexpected avenues.

The Arts

If you’re a creative at heart, consider adding in an artistic element to your devotional time. Paint your prayers, doodle your thoughts, pen a poem to God. As you participate in the creative process, consider God’s creativity in the world, and ask Him how you can partner with His creativity at work.

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Music

If you’re musical, consider writing songs that focus on what you love about God. Put Scripture to song, or sing to Jesus about whatever bubbles up out of your heart. God, who sings over us (Zephaniah 3:17), welcomes our songs of praise and thanksgiving back to Him.

Nature

If being outside makes your soul come alive, set aside intentional time to connect with God in the great outdoors. The One who called the earth into existence is the same God who died on the crossbars of a tree to save us. The whole earth is full of God’s glory (Isaiah 6:3)—so go and encounter Him there. Sit by a river and meditate on Scripture. Go on a hike and let the beauty of the earth remind you of God’s beauty.

Friends

There is a long and biblical history of God’s people gathering together to worship Him—and weekly church is a wonderful thing. But what about spending “quiet time” together with a friend or two? You can pray for and with one another; you can read Scripture to and with one another. You can eat together and share your hearts over a shared meal. The early church was meeting together daily (Acts 2:42-47); we can too.


Read more over at RELEVANT Magazine!

Why You Should Keep a Health Journal: An Article for Darling Magazine

Keeping a Health Journal-Why & How

Image via Darling via Milena Mallory
This is my newest article for Darling Magazine. Read it here!

Sometimes, it’s not until we are feeling ill or uncomfortable that we pay attention to what our bodies might be trying to tell us. When we are truly sick, there’s nothing else we can attend to; our bodies force us to stop, heal, and replenish.

Attentiveness to our bodies — and also to our minds, and hormones, and spirits — can pay wonderful dividends. A health journal is a wonderful tool that helps us track changes in our physical, emotional and spiritual experiences, possibly helping to pinpoint the sources of insomnia, distress, or pain. Additionally, if there is a family history of a particular health issue, journaling can help us to stay on top of genetic tendencies that we want to keep an eye on.

It’s not necessary to journal for all of the following categories, but what follows are ways to stay in tune with your body. Entries can be as short or long as you desire, but consistent entries will yield the most insight.

Physical

If you experience headaches, insomnia, or physical pain of any kind, keeping a journal of what you eat and what you do throughout the day may help uncover patterns or triggers that contribute to — or generate — that pain. Headache diaries are common, but with the influx of food sensitivities and dietary issues in our culture, tracking your responses to specific types of food (lactose, gluten, sugar) may be helpful as well. If you have chronic pain that flares with the weather, or allergies, consider noting those too.

Mental & Emotional

Our mental and emotional health are major factors in our overall health, and most of us know that feeling consistently depressed, anxious, or worried impacts our physical health, too. Journaling how we are feeling — and when those feelings flare or subside — can offer some insight into emotional patterns. Journaling can also be therapeutic in and of itself, as the act of writing down our thoughts often helps us gain clarity and perspective on the situation we find ourselves in.

Hormonal

As women, we know the power hormones can have in impacting our physical, mental, and emotional health. They play a large role not only during our periods, but in our lives as a whole. The basic of tracking our menstrual cycle is important; for women who hope to have children soon or down the road, knowing the rhythms of our cycle can better help us understand our fertility. Tracking our cycle also keeps us in tune with our bodies and aware of any unexpected changes, which should be discussed with a doctor.

Spiritual

Our spiritual lives both impact and are impacted by our physical, mental, and hormonal lives. If you consider yourself a spiritual person, consider noting how your spiritual life is growing or changing in your journal. It may overlap with your mental and emotional health, and you may also find that it overlaps with your physical or hormonal health. We are multi-faceted people, and for many of us, how we relate to God and how we understand the world — and our place in it — will deeply impact how we feel and how we interpret our lives.

After tracking any or all of these categories for a week, look back over your entries for patterns or, alternatively, changes. Do the same after two weeks, three weeks, and a month. If you consistently have headaches on the weekend, for example, is it because you’re not at the office drinking coffee and you have caffeine withdrawal? If it takes you an hour to fall asleep — even when you’re exhausted — is it because you’ve been watching a screen too close to bedtime?

Many things will not be simple to track, but a journal gives us something to work from and refer back to. And, as always, if you have any concerns, make sure to talk them over with your doctor. A health journal won’t fix anything in and of itself, but it offers more insight into what we are experiencing and how we might be able to move forward into fuller health, in every way.